In chapter six, author Mark Chanski lays out for us that is clearly biblical for the woman to be the child nurturer rather than the man. “Motherhood is an honorable and sacred vocation. The King of Heaven has specially appointed the mother to accomplish a noble and lofty mission” (101). From time-to-time I must admit, I don’t feel like I am accomplishing any noble tasks. Many things that I do each day are undone within minutes, even seconds. “What’s the point,” is a question that can enter my mind. There is also the wrong thought of desiring for my husband to take over some of my roles when he gets home–the whole 50/50 parenting mindset that the culture puts forth. This is a pit that we can easily fall in to anger and bitterness if we expect our husbands to be our helpers rather than the other way around. We should welcome their help, but not expect it.
Questions to consider: As a mother, are you ever tempted in similar ways as me? Do you ever question what’s the point? What good am I doing each day? Do you ever expect your husband to do what God is calling you to do as mother and homemaker?
In chapter seven, Chanski seeks to inspire us towards excellency in motherhood. He does so by using a variety of models for us. I found it encouraging on page 109, where he was talking about the difference between a child raised by a mother with a biblical view of motherhood and a mother with a non-biblical view of motherhood–he made the point that our children will bear burdens and go through trials. If I stay faithfully at my post in the home, I have the opportunity to build up my children’s souls to withstand those storms that lie ahead. That section put life back into what seems meaningless or unproductive in my days.
Another part of the chapter that inspired me was the section discussing the ongoing need for mothers to stay home even when their children are older. “She [Chanski's wife] was a maternal air traffic controller, directing and nurturing the lives of her offspring who were now making crucial decisions that would determine the courses of the rest of their lives. Both the stakes and the stress levels were higher than they’d ever been” (112). I am only eight years into motherhood, but I can see the temptation to look ahead and think it will be so much easier down the road then where I am at in these early years. I think when they are older they won’t require so much work, and yet they will just in a different ways then now–many of which will prove to be more difficult. I can lack joy now thinking it’s just too hard, too taxing.
Questions to consider: Do you have biblical convictions of what motherhood should be? Do you have faith for all God is calling you to do as a mother?