Several years ago, when Pete and I first married, we lived in an apartment in North Jersey. We had to go to the laundry mat to do our laundry. Lots of people do this, no big deal, right? I DREADED it. Perhaps my dread stems from the time the owner asked me in broken English, “What’s the matter with you?” I had loaded the washer unevenly and the entire washer was shaking violently and making outrageous noises. Only, I didn’t realize it was a problem; hence, my friend’s inquiry.
I may have disliked the job of putting away the laundry even more. My procrastination of this task was so bad that Pete would hum a carnival tune as he reached into the clean laundry bag to “win” the matching pair of socks “prize”. I am laughing even as I type this. I am so grateful for Pete’s humor and patience.
I knew, theoretically, what I desired in our home. I just had no idea how to get there. It no longer worked to think,” once this or that changes I will grow in this area”. If one area of life became easier, other challenges were added. I began to see that the area of home management was directly related to my role as helper and I needed to grow…and needed some help! Uh, oh, now I had to admit that I was a messy. What freedom!
Maybe you enjoy the peace that an orderly home affords, but have certain areas you just can’t get to. Perhaps you have not had the advantage of a mother who was able to train you in home management. It could be that you appreciate order, but don’t know how to get there. (I fit into each of these categories, to some degree). By design, we as women, have the unique privilege to look after the affairs of our household. This is one aspect of Biblical Femininity to which we should give our attention.
By God’s amazing work on the cross, God is no more pleased with us when our home is clean and in order or in utter disarray. Our standing before God is sure because of Christ alone. We can add nothing to it, not even a clean house. May God help us to grow, in our role as women, to reflect the powerful message of this glorious gospel, even as we manage our homes.
What’s a girl to do?
1. If you are married, ask your husband if your home management reflects his priorities. Make your husband’s priorities, your priorities.
2. If you are single, determine what priorities you have for your home and if your home reflects those priorities.
3. Study the topic. Read books about cleaning, organizing.
4. Use the Internet as a resource. Google “home organization” or other topics that you need help in.
5. Stalk people who excel in order and home management. Ask them questions. Observe their habits.
6. Most importantly, pray. Ask the Lord to help you grow. It is good to live in peace and order. He will help us.
Here is one particular resource that I continue to find helpful. I am not suggesting this book as a guide for spiritual direction, but as a practical guide with helpful tips.
The New Messies Manual by, Sandra Felton
What resources or helpful hints have you found useful in your quest for home organization?